by Sunni Chapman – TheDailyBreadcrumb.com

The first thing I think about when endeavoring to write about new beginnings is the inevitable end that preceded that urging.

Life is a constant spiral of beginnings and endings. Life itself is a spiral that seems to have a beginning and an end, but if you look very close, you will see that it’s never actually quite discernible where you are in that spectrum. And if you look even closer, you see that beginnings and endings are actually the same thing.

Endings ARE beginnings, and EVERYTHING in the universe is always, and constantly, beginning — in every, single, moment. In every breath we take, beginning.

Let’s use a very basic, but rather dramatic example to illustrate this truth:
Take a little girl, no more than 4 years old, happy, healthy, playing outside — when we look at her we see “beginning”, it seems obvious right? Now take a 85 year old woman, frail bones, heart condition, sitting in her living room wrapped in a quilt — when we look at her we see “ending”, again, it seems obvious right? Now cut to reality — outside of our minds preconceived notions about the “order” of things — and see that the old woman lived another 20 years of life, happily, and died at the age of 105. And that the little girl, died in an accident, before she even turned 5 years old.

This may be a tough example to swallow, it hurts our hearts to even think about, and it doesn’t seem “right” for these kinds of things to happen, but the truth is — they DO. Things like this DO happen, and if you’re willing to drop your defenses and LOOK at this truth, it will bring a staggering clarity to your life about the preciousness of every moment. It will dismantle all of your ideas about beginnings and endings, and it will land you right smack in the center of the present — where everything is always beginning.

The little girl has left the vehicle of her body, to begin again, new – in a way that is beyond all human contemplation. I won’t pretend to know what that looks like, or how that is, but a place deep inside me knows that when form breaks down, life still remains. The life that we are has no end, it is a timeless and infinite essence, a perpetual beginning.

You can take this rather dramatic example and apply it to the smallest things in life, what you take for an end (end of a marriage, end of a job, end of a relationship), is always a beginning, and what you take for a beginning, might quickly appear to become an end (which is always just a beginning of some other kind) — are you starting to see this spiral yet? Are you starting to see how when you look very close you can never truly tell where you are in this loop?

This is the kind of stuff that boggles the mind, it boggles it just enough to be QUIET. Our mind “understands” but cannot fully and completely wrap itself around the vastness of this, and so it essentially “shuts up” for a moment, and we sit in a hollow of pure awe and liberation, if only for a moment before the mind creeps back in.

I love how the mind cannot comprehend the divine dimension — that not-understanding with MIND opens up the emptiness that allows the fullness to flood right in. I love knowing that it is never our MIND that touches that beautiful void, it is our spirit – our essential nature, that communes with that sweetness. Just further proof of the intelligence of our design — Grace has made sure there’ll be no confusion when you feel that loving fullness inside, about where it came from. You simply can’t experience that kind of fullness from thinking, it comes from beyond. When your heart sings – it’s pure, you can count on it.

All of this saida, it is lovely that we celebrate and commemorate our beginnings and our endings in this culture, and in all cultures across the world. It is part of our human experience to do so, and I am a lover of these traditions just as much as anyone else! But I wonder how much more enriching these experiences would be if we looked a little closer, and knew the ultimate “I don’t know” about where we truly are in the spiral? I wonder how much more it would add to the experience because we would be that much more PRESENT and SURRENDERED and AVAILABLE in that moment?

Certainly, it’s worth some exploring, right?

All of this boils down to a very fine and heavily repeated point:
when we live for TODAY, there is no tomorrow.

And when there is no tomorrow, our heart is wide open.

And when our heart is wide open,
life is the thing of beauty it was always meant to be.

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Hi, my name is Sunni, (pronounced “sunny”) – and I am person. Just like you. I am a person who once hurt , a lot. I hurt until the pain got just bad enough for me to wake up. And when I woke up — whoa nelly — love swept in and blew the lid off my life. I was touched by a sweetness and strength that I cannot describe to you with words, but oh how I love trying anyway. :) That sweetness rushed in, and emptied me out, so I could be full again, and whole again. It left me with a joy and reverence for life that is so big, and vast, that it cannot be touched with fingers — words or thoughts. This sweetness didn’t take me away from life, it didn’t blast me off into some astral dimension, it didn’t float me out into the cosmos – away from the pain of the world, it rooted me in my humanity, it gifted me a bottomless compassion, and it made my heart a wide open space.

I write to share that space with you. I make art to share that space with you. I listen to share that space with you. Everything I do, I do to share that space with you. Because that space is you, and that space is me, and in that sharing we remember the truth of who we are. We are the pieces, you and me — the pieces of the whole. When we come together — magic happens.

Every nuance of your being compliments this world perfectly. Your path is a plan, not a mistake. And like a trail of breadcrumbs from the Universe, every piece on your path calls you closer to home. Home to that space at the center of you. I created The Daily Breadcrumb to help you pick up those pieces, I created it to help ME pick up those pieces, so we can bring those pieces together, and set the whole world free. One little “person” at a time. :)

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Kate

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You are exactly who and where you need to be right now. I promise darling.

It doesn’t matter to me if you are are a blogger and you have more or less site visitors than I do.

It doesn’t matter to me which one of us has more Twitter follows or Facebook friends.

It doesn’t matter to me if you are younger or older, richer or poorer, prettier or ‘uglier’ than me.

You are exactly who and where you need to be right now. I promise beloved Goddess.

Even when you don’t feel like a Goddess.

I know that comparing myself to others pretty much always ends in lowering my energy and causing a disconnect with joy. Even if the comparing makes me ‘look good’ or at least less worse off than so-and-so. This is because what I’m doing is telling myself that my value hinges on where I rank instead of in simply being exactly who I need to be.

Ranking can change in an instant – you may get more blog comments than I do and that is how you rank your value what will happen when one of my posts goes viral and gets over 200 comments? mhm.

Comparing ourselves to others is harmful to our happiness. It stops joy dead in it’s tracks.

Even when you come out ahead in the comparison and you temporarily feel good. You think “I could have it worse” or “I’m doing better than so-and-so.”

This thinking blocks true joy and peace.

The joy that comes from unconditional self-acceptance and radical self-love.

The peace that comes from understanding that you are already worthy of radical self-acceptance and unconditional self-love.

This thinking perpetuates the belief that your value is based on achievements, lack of failures and/or overcoming your failures/obstacles.

Your achievements are wonderful and celebrating them is wonderful BUT they do not define your worth.

Your failures are often seen as embarrassing and ruminating on them sucks AND they do not define your worth.

Your worth is is inherent and unchanging. The only thing that changes is your willingness and ability to accept this Truth.

Your worth is the same as the beggar on the street corner and also the same as the Queen of England. The only thing that changes is your willingness and ability to accept this Truth.

You may feel that there is no way you can ever believe you are a perfect and worthy Soul. I know exactly what that belief feels like and it is a small and frightened place with, at best, only glimpses of joy to exist in.

You can change these self-limiting beliefs. I promise.

Maybe that feels too big and impossible right now. I get that darling – I’ve been there as well.

For today will you please choose to simply read the following and accept that I believe it?

I see you darling and my perfect Soul sends love to your perfect Soul exactly as you are.

It is my Truth.

And I know if you will but take that first step and promise you never to give up on yourself you will one day believe it too.

I promise you darling. I promise.

Today can be your New Beginning – a step towards joy and peace beautiful.

In Love,

Kate

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Dr. Joe Dispenza of What the Bleep Do We Know? fame recently gave a TedTalk in Tacoma titled “The Three Brains that Allow Us to Go from Thinking to Doing to Being”

Two of my favorite quotes from this talk are:

“routine lulls the brain to sleep”

and

“Now your body is your unconscious mind. It does not know the difference between the actual experience and reality that produces emotion and the emotion that you fabricate by thought alone. To the body it believes that it is in that experience.”

He goes on to talk about the role metacognition plays in building new neural connections. Wikipedia describes metacognition as “cognition about cognition” and that is as good a definition as any I’ve come across.

Metacognition is the observation of who we are being. It’s thinking about what we’re thinking about and it is how we become aware and how we change our thinking.

Metacognition brings about the ability to change who and how we are in the world.

It allows us to consciously create our own New Beginnings moment by moment.

By observing and changing how we think we literally rewire out brain making it easier moment by moment to continue changing how and what we think and feel. Each new thought makes the next new one easier.

The brain is always able to change and adapt – you are never too old to create a New Beginning.

What are your thoughts about metacognition and changing your brain? Do you believe it can be done? Do you have experience with changing the way your brain works? I’d love to hear from you about this!

With Love,

Kate

1. Do you wake up and wish you hadn’t? Everyday?

2. Do you avoid answering the phone because you can’t stand the people in your life? Even just one of them?

3. Do you spend more time thinking of the ways your life sucks instead of thinking of all the reasons it’s awesome?

If you even almost answered yes to any of the above you need a New Beginning. Like yesterday probably.

But how the hell do you get one when you feel trapped in a mediocre life so foreign to the little kid daydreams of how it was gonna be you have trouble even remembering how you thought it was gonna be?

First you need to acknowledge you need one – denial that things aren’t working for you can be a powerful drug of self-soothing. But you know, deep down in your heart, you know if things aren’t right for you.

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When you allow yourself to see what’s wrong it usually either really pisses you off or makes you feel utter despair at the suckage you see.

That is ok.

It’s part of the process so don’t fight those feelings AND don’t wallow in them.

Just allow them to be – witness them inside of your awareness and don’t give in to the temptation to believe you will always feel this way.

See what sucks – explore why it sucks – ask yourself some hard questions about what your part in this suckage is.

Begin by imaging how you’d like things to be different. No action yet – just imagining. That is all for now… you need to (re)connect with your brilliant beautiful self and what Lights You Up before you can even begin to craft your New Beginning.

A great way to (re)connect is to use the visual nature of places like Pinterest and Tumblr and start collecting imagines and sayings that excite you, make you tingle and stir your heart.

For now just explore what others are doing that excites you – there are clues in there for you to discover and seeking and discovering those clues is the next step in your New Beginning so get to searching sweetie – your path back into yourself is right before you!

With Love,

Kate

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Tonight is a big full moon in Scorpio. Scorpio full moon is about truth is a big way – just like us Scorpios are!

It’s a time for inner stuff to bubble up to the surface.

A time of transformation – death, rebirth and awakenings.

A time where New Beginnings are right in front of you – IF you are willing to accept the gift of awareness being offered.

This weekend is the perfect time to explore yourself. To get to know yourself better. To fall in love with yourself even more.

When you sense new waves of self-awareness don’t turn away and hide – embrace the sensations. Full moon in Scorpio is about facing your truth. Even when the truth hurts – sometimes especially when it hurts.

Allow these waves to wash over you in a gentle rhythm or crash down on you in a fierce storm. This weekend you may find yourself experiencing the gentle and fierce waves and everything in between!

It’s all ok.

It’s all part of your own New Beginning.

It will pass if you allow it to.

The important thing here is to NOT become attached to your storm (story) instead to simply witness it passing through you.

Accept the new pieces of self-awareness.

Accept them unconditionally and with total self-forgiveness and self-love.

This is your New Beginning.

If you need help processing and witnessing you may choose to reach out and get the help of a coach.

You may want to journal through them.

You may want to bake or paint or garden.

You may want to go for a walk in nature, sit down on the Earth and simply be.

Whatever path(s) you journey through this full moon in Scorpio please remember to Trust in your journey.

This is your New Beginning.

With Love,

Kate



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May’s theme here at The Secret Goddess is New Beginnings and while I had a few ideas for what to post first this month when I saw Goddess Leonie’s post on Monday I knew I had found the perfect way to begin our New Beginnings theme!

Leonie lists 5 (only 5?) ways she is awesome in her post and asks us to join in and I can’t think of a better way to celebrateNew Beginnings than to focus on the awesomeness in myself and my fellow travelers.

Here are just a few of the ways I am awesome:

Goddess Leonie is Awesome Too!

~ I have a great big smile that invites people to join me in my happiness and joy

~ I am unfailingly optimistic

~ I love deeply and fearlessly (mostly)

~ I am weird, silly and funny

~ People tell me their secrets and I am honored by their Trust in me <3

~ I have awesome friends!

~ I wrote and took the leap and shared an eBook with the world (even though I was so scared!)

~ I am awesome because I see the world with fresh eyes and embrace my own childlike wonder and joy in the simple everyday miracles

~ I am awesome because I’m brave and tenacious and authentic and fully committed to LIFE and LOVE

Those are just a few of the reasons I’m awesome. I would love so much for you to join in and post in the comments or write up your own blog post and share the link listing some of the reasons You are Awesome!

With Love,

Kate

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Pema Chodron is quoted as having said:

When you begin to touch your heart or let your heart be touched, you begin to discover that it’s bottomless.

Healing is not a one time event where some magical creature waves a wand and you never.ever hurt again. Which kinda sucks sometimes.

The more I open my heart the more I unEarth hurts I had forgotten, repressed or ignored.

This is no fun.

I’m grateful to have friends who support my journey.

I’m grateful as well for tools such as Tara’s Digging Deep workbook and my own Releasing Relationships workbook.

I’m grateful for my unfailing optimism – it’s impossible for me to not believe things are always working for my own joy and betterment – it is now so intricately woven into the fabric of who I am.

This is a good thing.

Energetically I’ve been on a roller coaster for days now, almost a week.

It has not been fun.

But, whereas in the past I would have struggled with feeling overwhelmed I now choose to let the waves wash over me unhindered – even when they crash like giant waves – I float along in this tumult. Even when, at moments, it feels like I am in danger of drowning in the tumult – I trust and do not fight the process.

I Trust in Love.

Always in love

Not fighting in the process takes conscious soul work. It takes me recognizing I’m in stormy seas and protecting myself — by not watching violent shows, not clicking on links that hint at anything other than being uplifting and supportive, by being honest with my son that I’m tender and raw right now when he tries to goof with me and I can’t play along.

It also means not rushing the process — it takes however long it takes and I Trust it will be ok.

I Trust that I will find new horizons once the seas calm again — make new connections and experience new joys.

For now, I allow myself a wee bit of wallowing in the beautiful sorrow of this song and continue to Trust…

“Can your heart conceal
What the mind of Love reveals?”

With Love,

Kate

“yes”

“yes”

Be careful what you think…

Because what you focus on is what you get!

And what you act on is what you focus most on…

get support, get knowledge and get busy baby!

Always remember, what you focus most on is what you get so stay conscious and positive!

With Love,

Kate